Male Surrogate's Passion for Intimacy is an article about Andrew that appeared in the San Francisco Chronicle on New Year's Day, 2013.
Also, on 12/26/12, Andrew was interviewed live on a podcast called Sex and the Divine Design. Andrew's episode, entitled, Sexual Empowerment, is described as follows:
International Professional Surrogates Association
For more information about Surrogate Partner Therapy, the Code of Ethics, latest media coverage, official policy statements, or if you are interested in becoming a surrogate partner, see the website of IPSA. It contains a wealth of information about the practice.
Imagine a five-year-old being told by her mother "Do whatever he tells you."
These were the words I heard as my Mother left me in the care of my uncle. Hours later he told me that “we” needed a nap. I protested and again he reminded me of my Mom’s order. This predator proceeded to molest me and at times lay on top of me. I remember his stinking breath, his grunting noises, and the pain and bleeding. I also remember the horrific feeling that he was crushing me and I couldn’t breathe.
I have been aware that many things trigger the horror of that day. Throughout my life, including thirty years of marriage, I had always panicked when a man put his weight on me. I have relived the fear, the loss of power, and the absolute horror of not being able to breathe. At times I could manage this by continuously repeating in my mind “You are ok. He is not going to harm you.”
It is now 64 years later. As a result of my experience with Andrew Heartman I have been gifted with a new knowledge and I now have control of this. I felt very safe with Andrew, probably because I knew that Andrew had no agenda of his own, and that he was there only to support me. Before, I always had to convince myself that I was safe—to talk myself into it. But with Andrew I was able to experience that I am safe, and this experience transformed not only how I relate to men, but to the world in general. I found I had the confidence to attempt and achieve many things in the world that I had been afraid to before. I have gained the wisdom that I can choose, freely and powerfully, and this has unshackled me from a prison that spanned 64 years.
I am now free to choose a relation without “Uncle G.” in the bed. My thanks to you, Andrew.
Copyright © 2010–2013 Andrew Heartman